"Aww man! Not again!"
That's what I said to myself the other day, when my brain spontaneously materialized the answer to my current life-altering question: whether or not to go back to school to study music ed. and become a teacher. Several weeks ago I left my teacher's studio convinced that this was the right path, but something was making me hesitate to commit to the idea. Logically, it seemed the best option. At the end of 2-3 years I would have a teaching credential and possibly a masters in music, not to mention a defined career path. I would have marketable skills in a specialized area, and job searches would be simple because I would know exactly what I was looking for. I would be directly using my bachelor's degree to earn my living, which would provide me with peace of mind that borrowing all that money was the right decision. And, hopefully, I would love my job.
So, going back to school would obviously be the right decision...right?
No matter how many times I mulled over the idea, I could not get myself to mentally commit. Something deep in my gut would tighten. I would roll my eyes and say to myself, "Oh brother. Am I really going to do this? Really?" And then the answer trickled into my ear from some ethereal place above. "NOPE." And then I laughed, because I couldn't believe it had happened again. When this all started, I was experiencing some minor health problems which, combined with my rigorous rehearsal schedule for South Pacific and my six-day-a-week housekeeper job, sent me into freak-out mode. I was exasperated at not having health insurance and having to work at this physical labor job when I was so run down, and to make matters worse we were in deep financial trouble because Matt's financial aid check was a month late. It's clear to me now that all these things combined drove me into depression. I was going down, and I saw no positive future to bring me back up. Anxiety overwhelmed me and I felt I had to make a drastic change - one that would give me a perfectly clear vision of a future where carrying a heavy cleaning bucket up and down flights of stairs was not in the cards. I wanted health insurance. I wanted to be taken care of. I didn't want my life to be dedicated to musical theatre, because that's just a hobby if you don't get paid to do it. And believe me, I did not intend to pay thousands of dollars to the CSU to learn a hobby. Anyway, all of this built up inside me and led me to the idea of going back to school to become a teacher, even though what I really want to do is perform. I laughed when the answer came, because this exact thing had happened to me before. When I wanted to switch my music major emphasis from performance to liberal so that I could have time to take English classes and perhaps become an English teacher (for when I inevitably failed to earn a living as a singer), my advisor stopped me with one phrase. "Don't give up on your love," she said, referring to my lifelong love of singing. She was right. Singing in front of an audience, however scary, is the ultimate be-all end-all thing to me. It's all I want to do. I'm not going back to school, because that would mean a total shift of focus. I would have to stop auditioning for shows and put all my energy into learning how to teach and getting over my fear of failing at doing something I've never tried. The epiphany I had the other day was that I am already doing EXACTLY what I want to do: auditioning for musicals, continuing to study singing, and being free to do whatever I want with my off-the-clock hours. My logical brain was trying to talk me out of it again because a singer's career is often very unstable, and I am always seeking stability in life because I grew up in an unstable environment.
"BINGO. There's your answer," my brain said, once I had been to the clinic to resolve my medical issues and we had received Matt's financial aid check, "Change nothing. You are already doing what you want to do. Yes, some things suck, but some things are always going to suck. You're doing fine! It takes time to achieve greatness in any area of life, so be patient. Good things will happen, but they won't happen if you give up." So, that happened, and I laughed and smiled, and the next day I was bouncing off the walls with excitement and singing out loud. I have learned a lot about myself through this experience. I have two brains, sort of: my anxious brain and my normal Fionna brain. Normal Fionna brain likes to be calm and make rational decisions, but anxious brain likes to apply logic to make decisions quickly and thus be rid of the anxiety of brooding over difficult situations. I know now that to get the results I want, I need to provide time and space for anxious brain to quietly leave, so that normal Fionna brain can make decisions rationally and calmly. After all of this, I am relieved and excited. I don't know what's going to happen in the future, and for the first time, I kinda like that.